We all dream of a fairy-tale wedding but sometimes wanting it too much is detrimental to how things will turn out. Involvement in each part of the preparations is important in order to maintain quality control, BUT!, it is even more important to not become overbearing.

The vendors you are dealing with are professionals and have been in the industry for many years. Be it a photographer, DJ, caterer or florist, they've had dozens of weddings before yours, and will have dozens more to come. They've seen weddings from an angle you will never see them at and have a good understanding of what works and why they work. Trusting them, once they've understood your vision, is crucial in order to receive the best possible service.

The key is finding vendors you can communicate properly with. Once you're on the same page and you've clearly set the direction you wish to pursue, it's time to let go. Constantly watching over their shoulders and second-guessing all of their decisions will hamper their work and lessen their enthusiasm (and has a good chance of earning you the Bridezilla label!)

Keep in mind however that not every bride/vendor combination is meant to be. Some vendors are very traditional and will always suggest the safe route while others tend to be more eccentric. If you find yourself in a position where you dislike everything a vendor suggests, then no amount of micro-managing or trust will have a positive outcome. At that point, you're better off dealing with somebody else.